As the title of this article indicates, a few days ago, on Saturday, February 29, 2020, I gave my first workshops: Fashion and Photo. It’s true that for some it might seem ordinary, but I’m sure that through this article, everyone will be able to identify themselves. Because maybe for me it was about giving a first workshop, but maybe for you it’s about starting a project you have in mind, maybe starting your own business? Or maybe you sing very well and have been invited for the first time to lead a public performance, or maybe you are an amateur photographer or videographer and have been called in for a remunerated work?
These are all “first time” situations that surely create some boiling frustration in your head! But maybe for you who are reading me, you are already experienced, so in that case, I just invite you to remember your beginnings, the first time that…
Those who know me and have been following me for the last 2-3 years know that I love fashion, dressing and taking pictures, but also that I love social networks. But where am I getting at? Well, I want to say that all these things, I have always done them out of pure passion and without any other motivation in my mind. Also, even though I knew, when I created my blog, that I was going to use it as a channel to give fashion tips, it certainly was not like standing in front of people who came to listen to you.
When I received the invitation to lead these workshops (it was in October 2019, a few weeks after the launch of my blog), I was quite surprised, but I accepted because I knew it was a challenge and that if I declined the invitation, it would only be out of “fear”.
And so on that day, the person who invited me surely heard me say “yes, thank you very much for thinking of me” but only the words ” OH WAIT? ME?” were echoing in my head and actually I believe that these two exclamations remained in my head until a few weeks before the event.
You see this phase during which your thoughts lead you to telling yourself that you have nothing exceptional, this phase when your thoughts lead you to minimize your gifts and talents, until they seem banal or even worthless to you? Well, that was exactly the phase I was in, and I didn’t even realize it. It was much later that I realized it, at a time when I was taking some time to reflect on my way of thinking and speaking. At that moment, I happily repented, because it was really like having minimized all the potential that God had put in me and wanted to see released.
Then came the “preparation” phase: “WHAT AM I GOING TO TELL THEM?”, “ARE THEY REALLY GOING TO LEARN SOMETHING FROM ME? You know, that phase when you wonder whether what you’re going to present is going to be successful or not, whether people are going to be impacted or not. And in that phase, you can’ t really know if people are going to be interested, but you have to learn to believe in your potential, to believe that if you’re there and you’re going to accomplish this thing, there’s something inside you that has to come out and be released. And if you are a christian, you know as well as I do that what God has put in you is not insignificant and that He is going to use it to touch others. This is what allows you to let go then of the “are people going to be touched or not? » questions. And I can assure you that after preparing my workshops, whose contents were nothing more than what I had already applied in my life, I was positively amazed with myself!
Then, just when you are getting ready to do what you have to do, that’s when the battle of thoughts intensifies and you have to select the right ones! And by the way, I was fully aware that I was in the middle of a battle of thoughts and that the outcome of what I was going to do depended on the thoughts I was going to allow myself to accept. I was aware that: IT’S ALL IN MY HEAD!
And so by the time I reached D-Day and gave the workshops, I realized that “it was the moment”. I was analyzing everything, the participants, etc., and there were 1000 voices running through my head and the loudest ones were making me doubt: I was wondering if these workshops were going to be useful, if all of this was going to bear fruit, etc. I was even starting to think that maybe I wasn’t ready but ironically it was as if these thoughts didn’t manage to make me panic and then, as someone once said so well, “The loudest voice is not necessarily the voice to listen to” in Battle of the voices – Ps Juan Mejias.
This is why the voice I chose to listen to was the one that was saying to me, “Do it” and I said to myself, “Lord, if you have allowed me to be here and do it, you know better than I do why, and the impact it will have”. And so I just did it.
Let me skip the details of the process, the reactions and all the rest of it, and I’ll finish with the “after” phase, because it’s just as important as the first ones, and with even more voices, between those who say, “Wow, look at you, you finally did it!“ and those who come up to you and say, “Don’t get excited, it wasn’t a big deal, it’s not like you walked on the moon”. And here again, it is a matter of choosing the right thoughts.
And in my case, it’s true that those may have been my first two workshops in front of a relatively small audience, but I chose not to pretend it was “nothing”, I chose not to wait until I could stand at a conference in front of hundreds of people to show my gratefulness and finally consider my potential.
So for you, it may not be at Bercy that you led an amazing performance today, your business may not yet be as famous as Steve Jobs’, it may not be Naomi Campbell that you photographed or a DC Comics movie that you directed, but don’t belittle what you’ve already accomplished! On the contrary, be proud of it!
By the way, I know a book, so powerful, that recommends not to minimize your weak beginnings, and even says that if someone despised your weak beginnings, he should have rejoiced because what God has started to do in your life, is going to be a magnificent masterpiece!
So I would just like to invite you, you who read me,
- And who didn’t begin anything out of fear and doubt, to believe in yourself and in the potential that God has put in you! There are people who will be blessed by what is in you ;
- And who are already on your way, to look at your beginnings, to be thankful for them and to dream bigger. And I will even add this: Don’t wait to be cheered by others to cheer yourself!
- And who is already an expert, to look back, to be thankful for the path you have taken and to move forward, the best is yet to come!
Lots of love,